Skill bind, Gear/gem/passive swap issues

Swapping gear and gems and passives is made exponentially arduous by skills disappearing from skill bar or not working at all while still showing up.
And then swapping gear, especially multiple pieces, can sometimes require multiple passive respecs just to get it back on.
A solution is to make skills and gear "grey" if they don't work any more. I should still be able to put the gear on but be inert, especially if I just had it on them took it off but because there was 15 INT on it and I need 14 and only have 13 now that I took it off I'm screwed and have to port back to town and OH WAIT I'm in Act 1 Cruel gotta go to a different act to find my boy Sin to change my passives, sometimes several, to get my gear back on and then OOPS now I can't use my weapon gotta respec AGAIN.
All because I wanted to check if this one item was an upgrade.
Not everyone plays on PC or has multiple screens to have PoeDB or some other useful third-party services to do these things for us. I was sold "developed with consoles in mind" and I expected it to be that.